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Wednesday, 13 January 2016

MAKE PEACE

  Hi guys!
  During the last time I have been making peace with people a lot and want to share my thoughts and experience with you today.
  Well, I am a VERY easily offended person. I wish it was a lie but it is not. Sometimes if I think a friend or someone else has done something bad to me I would avoid talking with them for months or what is even worse I would just cross them out of my life, like: deleting their telephone number, deleting from friends, deleting all the memories that are connected to them and finally just ignoring them and whatever happens but never contacting them ever again. Sounds cruel, doesn't it?
  I think I have finally understood that this kind of behaviour is at least stupid. And what for to do all this effort to forget someone existed in your life if you can just forgive this person? Just think how much energy you waist to be angry, how much time you waist to delete everything that is related to this person on your social media and finally how much you hurt yourself because you have to rip out from your heart someone who is actually very dear to your heart just because this someone has done one or maybe a few more than one foolish mistakes...
  Instead of this I think with some time it's much easier to forgive than keep fighting with somebody. It will seem hard at the first second but later it will be a relief that you will know you can be with this person you have forgiven in the same room and feel comfortable instead of being in the same room with a person you haven't forgiven and feel miserable. At the end of the day you won't be able to avoid someone all your life. We all live in the same room - planet Earth.
  If you want to forgive somebody but you don't know really how to start, first, be honest with yourself. Tell yourself what is the real reason you are offended. Most of the time, I know it by my own experience, the reason you are offended is because of your pride. And it's fine. We all have some pride. But if your pride troubles you to live freely then you have to forget about it from time to time and learn to look at things easier. If your pride ruins your relationships with people then you have to let it go. I think it's better to have a little less pride but have people who love you and care for you than to be so proud that you push away all the people that could love and care for you.
  Then when your anger has calmed down you have to go there and sincerely talk to the person that gives you a heartache. Tell them how they made you feel, what do you think is wrong between you two and how you want things to change. Most of the time you'll find out it has never even occurred to the person that he or she may have offended you. Sometimes the real reason that you are in a fight with somebody is just a HUGE MISUNDERSTANDING. Huge  misunderstanding. It may be a huge mis -un-der-stan-ding. (I am whispering to you)



  So, if you truly want to prevent any bad unhappy sad moments in your relationship you should just talk more. Learn to be more humble and do not burst so easily because explosion of anger does not help your relationships at all... at all... And even if you or your friend do something really wrong, learn to forgive.
  And I know it's very painful but sometimes you'll tell the people how they made you feel and how they did you wrong but they won't agree with you, they'll defend their actions with some dumb excuses or they'll say you're right but still won't say "sorry". Even then if you truly love this person try to forgive them. And if you don't feel you can be friends anymore then at least try to stay as good acquaintances. Who knows may be with some time you will be able to honestly and completely forgive them for all the 100% and will be ready to be friends again so there is no need to make things worse with ignorance, revenge and disrespect (People it is seriously so low and such a children garden way to react).
  Finally, when people fight it's always the fault of two persons not one. And you're not perfect either. More likely you could have done the same mistake. So don't be so hard on people. Treat others as you want to be treated. And I'm sure if you were in the shoes of people that have offended you you would want some mercy. So show people mercy. Be merciful.


MAKE PEACE